Reasons that Might Cause Empaths to Freeze
1. People are friendly for self-interested reasons.
The kind, you know. the sort of individual that enters a room and immediately begins their own public relations effort. Everyone responds positively to them since they are nice and approachable.
They draw closer, and you feel your heart drop. When they speak to you rather than to you, you can tell they are more aware of themselves. They don’t seem to pay attention to what you’re saying, yet they always look directly at you, grin, and nod. Why bother having the phony conversation when you know they actually couldn’t care less about you?
Empaths and those with high levels of sensitivity may find it difficult to have these conversations at all. They could come out as bland, uninterested, and hesitant to contribute when they have to.
They develop a mental barrier that keeps them from speaking honestly due to a lack of trust. This may be a response to the lack of emotion in the exchange that they notice under the outward appearance of friendliness.
Empaths may mimic the behavior by acting equally false, but this drains and exhausts them and may leave them feeling uneasy and uncomfortable afterwards.
2. The dramatic attention seekers.
One of the traits of an empathetic person is their desire to stay out of the spotlight, and as a result, they detest those who use theatrical behavior to bring attention to themselves.
3. Compliments aren’t always genuine.
There are moments when people congratulate you really, and there are occasions when they don’t mean it. Sometimes people may flatter you while secretly harboring jealousy. Additionally, there are instances in which praises cover up critiques.
Highly perceptive people can identify the difference between all of these types of compliments, so it’s best to refrain from offering one altogether if it’s not sincere.
An empath or a highly sensitive individual will often be more perceptive to non-verbal cues in conduct. Because of this, they are more aware of the sentiment underlying compliments than of the exact words. Because of this, anything other than a sincere complement is likely to irritate rather than gratify.
4. Spineless people would do anything to be among the cool crowd.
Yes, it is well known that empaths are prone to being easily moved by every tale of woe, but they also show courage in their choices and work hard to avoid being bullied. Most significantly, they just choose to be independent and don’t strive to belong to the elite.
5. People adopt personas to hide their authentic self.
An empath may find it upsetting when individuals conceal their true selves since they struggle with their sense of self. Highly sensitive individuals may experience a great level of sympathy for the person concealing in this scenario because they understand that it stems from a lack of self-confidence.
However, it can make it impossible for them to pursue the relationship any further. You cannot establish a genuine relationship with someone if you are aware that you are not conversing with the real person but rather with a fictional character.
If they believe it will be worthwhile, the empath may attempt to coax the actual person out in particular circumstances. Otherwise, they could just find themselves watching the performance in shocked silence.
6. Some want to fit in so bad but can’t.
Nothing turns an empath off more than someone who makes a valiant effort to live a false life in order to fit into someone else’s mold; it becomes even worse when that person fails to pass muster at the end of the day.
7. Others flatter everyone to be liked.
A strong faith in a person being themselves is an empath. They think that if you stay loyal to who you are, other people will accept you for who you are. Empaths do not identify with the kind of traits that include lying to others to get their favor.
8. People mask pain beneath a tough exterior.
Empaths are prone to conceal their own pain from others and are well aware of the motivations behind why individuals do so. The fact that these people are masking their grief doesn’t make it any easier for them to be around them, though.
No matter how hard someone tries to hide their grief, empaths are able to sense it, and the fact that it’s concealed just amplifies how strong the anguish feels.
When people suddenly feel depressed and desperate for reasons they cannot explain, they may not realize it until after the fact. Alternatively, if they are aware of it, they are aware that they should not bring it up out of respect for the other person’s privacy. Their perception that there is always an elephant in the room makes interaction difficult and stilted, or even impossible.
There are moments when we may all be untrue to ourselves. Empaths should avoid phony persons completely in particular situations where insincerity conceals harmful intentions.
However, there are other instances when they might make use of their gift of heightened sensitivity to gently bring to light the suffering of others without making it public and assist those in need.
