Have you ever wondered why so many smart, confident, and attractive women are often single?
Chances are, you know at least one or two amazing and attractive women who are single. You’ve probably asked them, at least once, why they are single and not in a rush to have a family. They might joke around about this topic, but the roots of the problem are much deeper.
More and more beautiful and smart girls end up solo not having any relationship. They’re smart, funny, beautiful, and are basically everything men would be attracted to. It seems, these gorgeous women can have any man they want. And yet they are single.
However, you’d be surprised that this is such a widespread phenomenon. It might as well be a global epidemic.
So what exactly is the reasoning behind this trend? Let’s find out.
Why Smart and Attractive Women Stay Single
1. Modern women are independent.
Women have been fighting for their rights and are changing the world. More and more women get jobs that are on par or better than men and become independent.
They don’t need to ask men anymore for help with physical work because they can simply call a service and pay money. And sometimes it is faster than waiting for your husband to fix a problem.
2. They don’t want to settle.
Our culture looks at singlehood as some sort of an unwanted condition. If you’re single, you’re miserable. This is why so many people “settle” for partners they aren’t really compatible with just so they won’t be alone. But these women aren’t afraid to be alone.
In fact, they would rather wait patiently for the right man to come along. To them, it’s better to be single than to be trapped with someone who just doesn’t feel right. For these women, being single has a mountain of opportunities for growth.
3. “Dating for the sake of dating” is not about them.
These women are not into wasting their time or energy on a guy they really can’t see themselves being with long term. Casual dates just seem like a waste of time. It doesn’t mean she isn’t interested in dating, she’s just not interested in attending ONE more mediocre date.
They are not into meaningless sex. Sex is better with someone she has feelings for, and she’s willing to wait for that.
4. They can take care of themselves.
There is a general idea that smart and attractive women are lonely. This could not be further from the truth. Women today respect themselves and their needs above all else, and know that they take care of themselves the best.
5. They can’t stand being a second option.
Smart women will never accept anything less than being their man’s top priority. These women always come first and will never settle for anything less than that. They are very sensitive, and if they suspect that something wrong is happening behind their backs, they will walk away before things get worse.
Any person who thinks he can string a smart woman along while messing around with another woman on the side is dead wrong.
6. They have very high standards.
These women are aware of their worth and they won’t accept to be with someone who isn’t compatible with them. Their partners must possess all the necessary characteristics this type of women are looking for in a man. Being strong, confident, independent, and driven matters a lot.
7. They respect their free time.
So now instead of cooking at home for a husband and several kids after office work, women just prefer to spend their time on themselves. It seems more attractive to go to a spa, a beauty salon, shopping or a master class of self-development, than to take care of kids or clean up after a man.
8. No man is needed to complete them.
They’re accomplished in their own right. They have their own careers, sets of friends, and basically a life that completes them. They don’t need a man to give them any validation. They’re content and perfectly happy with the life they’ve built for themselves.
They know that if the right man comes along, it wouldn’t be to serve a kind of purpose or fulfillment they need to seek. The man of their life would only add another layer to their already complete life.
9. They seem to have it all.
They have beauty, brains and glowing personality to boot. Dating what could be a future wife can scare the living crap out of a guy. It forces the issue of whether he wants commitment anytime soon, or at all.
So, unfortunately for this smart and attractive woman, most of the guys they’re dating aren’t ready for this, so they feel forced to call it quits before it begins. They see the situation for what it is and bail wishing they could cross their path in fiveish years.
10. They take pride in their professions.
Women have been making a prominent name in industries and vocations. But do smart women love money? Such a question fails to take into account that most people, and not smart and hot single women exclusively, love the benefits money can add to life. By doing well in their jobs, women can support themselves and live the life they deserve.
11. Smart and attractive women are not the easiest to impress.
A smart woman knows what she is bringing to the table and wants someone who has something worthwhile to offer in return. She also wants someone who fully appreciates her. She places a bigger premium on substance than she does on style. It’s not easy to sway her by superficial things or a bunch of nice words.
12. They can’t tolerate bulls**t.
These are smart women who can smell bulls**t from miles away. They don’t have the time nor the inclination to deal with silly games. They don’t want drama in their lives. In fact, they avoid dating men who are problematic.
These women would never allow someone to play little devious mind games with them. They’ll never let anyone juggle with their feelings, cheat on, and lie to them. They’ve had this kind of crappy experiences many times before and now they won’t let be manipulated again.
13. Women are becoming more emotionally stable.
When people tell jokes about strong single women with cats, it is actually not a joke. Women have become stronger, more emotionally stable, and more educated.
The modern world gives them approximately the same opportunities as guys. It affects their psychology. You are not afraid to stay single without a means of sustenance. You would be better off waiting for an equal person, than sharing a bed with a man who you don’t love or don’t respect.
14. They know exactly what they want.
This hottie hot hot singleton has dated around enough to have learned from her past and identify specifically what she wants in her long term bae. She is looking for someone as independent, successful, and as happy as she is!
Her list of non-negotiables is rock solid, and she knows better than to waste her time on a dude who doesn’t match what she wants. She refuses to settle for just anyone.
15. A strong princess without a prince.
Falling in love can be wonderful experience, but the world still has much more to offer. A smart girl today knows the value of her family, friends, work, and herself. She knows she has to balance all these relationships and give time to everybody, and is aware that a romantic connection is not a valuable or productive way to spend time.
16. They have stopped looking for husbands.
This does not necessarily mean that they are opposed to getting married at some point in their lives. It just means that they don’t wake up every single day wondering if it is the day they will finally meet “Mr. Right.” Their own happiness is the most important thing and if a man can add to it, they’ll be happy.
They don’t need a husband to feel safe and protected. They don’t need someone to watch them while they sleep at night. Believe it or not, they even know that they don’t need a guy to have kids. They’re not afraid to be single mothers and pave the path to their happiness on their own.
17. Modern women started liking alternative relationships.
Nowadays we are not afraid to show our preferences in relationships. We can live as we see fit and nobody will judge us like before when we pick a partner of the same gender or have a free relationship. Obviously, this leads to people not getting married and just living together instead.
18. They know who they are.
Smart and attractive women know themselves completely. This means they know exactly what they do and don’t want in someone.
These women are in touch with their emotions and know how to deal with them. They’re comfortable with their sexuality and their own skin. They know themselves so well that they recognize when something is not right for them – especially love. And they don’t delude themselves into believing otherwise.
19. Guys feel intimidated by smart and attractive women.
This kind of women is aware of their power as well. Yet, they’ll never consent to act as if they’re naïve or stupid so that they don’t diminish the confidence of some guy or make him feel inferior to them. These women know what they deserve and if men can’t deal with it, sorry, but it’s their loss.
20. They’re busy with their own journey.
Women who are self-aware don’t waste their time on things they can’t control. Instead, they focus on bettering themselves.
These women are busy pursuing their life goals. Whether it be their careers, their passions, or their personal journey – they simply don’t have the time to date. They know that true love will come naturally when all the pieces fall into place.
21. They don’t follow rules.
Go to college. Get a good job. Find a man. Start a family. That’s simply not for them.
They’re not constrained to this hetero-normative path to “happiness”. They don’t believe they have to succumb to society’s preconceived perception of success or fulfillment.