Finding that special someone is priceless. But no one is perfect. A partner shouldn’t save your life; they should add value to an already awesome one. On the other hand, your guy or girl should make you happy the majority of the time, and make you feel loved and appreciated.
Doing any one of the following things should let you know that they’re serious about your relationship and truly love and care about you. Never consider leaving them.
Actions are stronger than words. And it’s these actions of your partner’s that are speaking to you and telling you that he is definitely a keeper.
1. They actually listen to you instead of just “hearing” you
You know they truly care when they genuinely listen to your problems, frustrations, and excitement. Their interest in your life means that they want to be involved so that at least they can find a way to ease your stress and burden. Not to mention, it’s their chance to actually help you with whatever you’re dealing with so that you know you can count on them to help you.
2. They cheer you up when you’re feeling low
When you come home in a cranky or exhausted mood, the last thing you need is to have a fight with your partner. While sometimes the frustrations can come out as anger, you know you don’t have to worry about your partner being offended because they understand what you’re going through. In fact, they even do some of the silliest things just to get you to let out a small smile. It certainly does brighten your day.
3. Support you in decisions but give honest opinions
They are your pillar of support. You know that at the end of the day, even if the world is against you, they’ll be there to support. However, if they did that blindly, it would have been disappointing because then you would know that they are just doing it for your sake and not because they believe in you. That’s why you love when they’re not afraid to be honest about their opinions and choose to play Devil’s advocate so that you can see both sides of an argument before you make a decision.
4. They don’t try to control you
A great partner also will let you have your space, and not become possessive or tell you who you can and can’t hang out with. They will understand and honor your need to hang out with friends and family sometimes, and won’t question your whereabouts at every second of the day. A great partner understands your need for solitude, and actually encourages you to spend time by yourself at least once a week.
5. They challenge you
If you have a keeper, they will challenge you to push past your comfort zone and become the best version of yourself. They won’t allow you to dwell in mediocrity for too long, not because they don’t think you’re good enough, but because they know you can do better. Instead, they encourage you to go out for that half marathon, apply for that job that you’ve been wanting for a while now, and travel to a country you’ve always wanted to visit. They just want you to become the most well-rounded, whole version of yourself, and constantly raise the bar so that you keep growing as a person.
6. They Take Care of You
Sure, they’ll bring you chicken noodle soup when you are feeling down in the dumps, but taking care of someone is also about hearing them when they need to talk, showing them you care by doing nice things for them, and handling their fair share of the work in a relationship.
7. They communicate instead of fighting
Everyone has a temper, and some people have shorter fuses than others. If your significant other makes an effort to communicate and listen instead of turning a disagreement into a screaming match, it’s a good sign of a healthy relationship. It’s also more important to be a good listener than to monopolize every conversation. Just saying, ‘I hear you, and appreciate that you’re sharing your thoughts and feelings with me’ will improve your communication skills.” It means a lot to have a relationship where you both value solving your problems together over “winning” an argument.
8. They get excited about seeing you again
Life is too short to spend it with someone you aren’t excited about coming home to. This person envisions their future with you, whether it’s as their date to their friend’s upcoming wedding or even going so far as to think about marriage and children together. If your SO can’t bother to text you back or keeps flaking on plans, however, that’s a red flag.
9. They truly love you
While many people say they are in love, you’ll feel in love with this person. They will do a million little things a day to make you feel important, and you’ll know it’s for real. Above all else, they will tell you that they love you.
All those insecurities you once had, you hardly remember now. Your guy or girl loves you so much, and wraps their arms around both your “flaws” and your strengths. They love every part of you, the good and the bad. They would never dream of leaving your side, because they understand your pain and do their best to heal it.