We are afraid. We are afraid of leaving the person we’ve been with for so long, we are afraid of being alone, we are afraid of the unknown. This fear makes us stay in one-sided relationships long after the love is gone.
Sadly, too many people can relate to these words nowadays. Far too many lost souls are convinced they don’t deserve to be loved, but they couldn’t be further from the truth. How could staying in a dysfunctional relationship be better than moving on alone and pursuing true love?
You shouldn’t be afraid of being on your own.
You should be afraid of staying in a one-sided relationship.
Here is why:
1. If you stay in a one-sided relationship, you can never feel free to be yourself.
For a fulfilling, wholesome romantic connection, both of the partners need to be fully devoted to one another. They need to accept each other with all of their flaws and imperfections and inspire one another to invest in their growth both individually and as a couple. Your significant other should encourage you to move forward and support all of your dreams and ambitions. Simultaneously, you should do the same for them. If that’s missing from the relationship, and you are afraid to reveal your true colors to your partner, you can never feel free to be yourself around them. That’s a sacrifice you should never make.
2. Being in your own company is better than being with someone who doesn’t care about you.
Spending quality time by yourself gives you the freedom to do the things you love. But when your partner is someone who constantly makes you feel bad about yourself and judges all of your choices, you cannot fully enjoy doing these things. Their negative energy is enough to suck the beauty out of everything you genuinely cherish.
3. Sleeping alone is better than waking up next to a stranger.
Sometimes going to bed alone may feel painfully lonely, but imagine falling asleep next to someone who makes you feel alone every day. Does your significant other’s behavior show nothing but indifference towards your feelings and emotions? If that’s your case, you may need to do some serious reality check. When someone does not care about your feelings and shows no interest in the things you treasure, their ‘love’ for you can never be real. At least, when you’re waking up alone, you don’t have to worry about sleeping next to someone who feels like a stranger.
4. Spending quality time on your own is better than being with the wrong person.
Someone once said, “If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.” In other words, the tremendous energy you put into loving a partner who is not fully devoted to you is nothing compared to the feeling you will get once you find the one who will be. So, instead of wasting your time on half-ass love, use that time to reconnect with yourself and figure out what’s best for you. Once you realize what you’re made of and what you truly deserve, you will be ready to open your heart for the love that will fulfill you, not kill you.
5. Being alone with your thoughts is better than talking to someone who doesn’t get you.
You are a dreamer. You have thoughts, ideas, and beliefs you cannot wait to share with the people you love. Your soul is craving for a real connection with someone who would get inspired by your ideas and support your wildest dreams. So, please, don’t disappoint your free-spirited mind by staying in a one-sided relationship with someone with whom you have nothing to talk about. Don’t stay with a person who doesn’t care about the things that move you and has no idea how to handle a real, meaningful conversation. You deserve better.