20. Be curious
Ask open-ended questions. When you’re interested in other people, they will often return the favor and friendship can be born.
21. Try a social media or friendship apps
While some people suffer from social anxiety and may struggle with putting themselves in public meetings initially, social media is a great avenue. There are great groups that align with interests. Also, there are a few free apps that, just like dating, connect friends —like Bumble BFF.
22. If you’re in a good mood, show it.
People are strongly influenced by the moods of other people and can even unconsciously feel the emotions of those around them. Do your best to communicate positive emotions so others feel happy when they’re around you.
23. Take feedback
Did your sister give you a hard time growing up for talking too much or for not listening well? Have loved ones told you that sometimes you’re a bit flaky?
Pay attention to the signals people give you about how you’re being received, and be open to learning about yourself. Your self-knowledge will make you a much better friend.
24. Be intentional
If you desire friendships, it’s perfectly fine to be intentional in your actions. Set goals for yourself to make new friends.
25. Reveal your flaws occasionally
People tend to like you more after you make a mistake, but only if they believe you are a competent person. Showing that you aren’t perfect makes you more relatable and shows a sense of vulnerability toward the people around you.
26. Be conscious of how you’re presenting yourself
This may seem obvious, but if you smell, are dirty, or are just presenting yourself in a sloppy way, you may turn some potential friends off. We all have off days (it happens!) but presenting yourself with care shows that you value yourself.
27. Tell them a secret
Self-disclosure is a great relationship-building technique and helps both parties feel closer to each other and more likely to confide in one another in the future. This vulnerability creates intimacy in the friendship.
28. Emphasize your shared values or common interests
People are more attracted to those who are similar to them, whether in attitude, hobbies they enjoy, or stances on controversial topics. Find something you have in common.
29. Get a life (in the gentlest way possible)
If you want to meet people with whom you have something in common, do things on a regular basis that involve others. Activities can range from taking classes, joining hobby clubs, volunteering, playing a sport or game, hiking, or any pursuit that meets regularly.
The people you meet will share your interest, and you’ll have something to talk about and enjoy together. Don’t rely on online sources like Twitter and Facebook. These can be helpful to keep in touch, but they don’t replace F2F friendship.