How To Make Friends In The Real World

How To Make Friends In The Real World

10. Smile

Smiling while keeping eye contact with someone will create a positive effect on the other person. Talking with a warm smile and consistent eye contact makes the other person feel comfortable and interested in the conversation.

11. Find a group that’s meeting online

If you don’t want to join in-person, find a group that’s meeting online. For example, there are online book clubs, business networking clubs, and more.

12. Don’t set your expectations too high or expect too much from one person

While creating friendships, it is often advised to have multiple friends for a variety of reasons. One of the major reasons is to avoid co-dependent relationships and those that may develop from trauma bonding. Be realistic with your expectations.

13. Do a favor for someone

Research has affirmed the positive outcome of doing a favor to someone. It helps in developing intimacy and good vibes between the two people.

You don’t have to make a great favor to someone for making a new friend. Even a small act of gentleness can contribute a lot. It might include providing some sort of help or guidance to the person beside you, whether in work, school or any social place.

14. Ask potential new friends out for “friend dates”

It may feel awkward or make you anxious, but asking a new acquaintance if they’d like to get coffee or go for a walk is a great way to get to know them. You might click and have a great time — or you might find you don’t connect on much. The more friend dates you go on, the more likely you are to find people who are a good fit.

15. Show up

Many times, opportunities for friendships are missed because people fail to be present. For example, if you are invited out with co-workers, a parenting group, classmates, neighborhood gathering, just go.

It is often stated that a large part of success is showing up, this can also hold true to friendships. In order to make friends, you have to put yourself in the position to create friendships.

 16. Try “mirroring”

There’s a psychological strategy called mirroring and it involves subtly mimicking the other person’s behavior. This can be copying their body language, facial expressions, gestures, etc. This mimicry facilitates individuals liking another person and therefore being more interested in becoming your friend.

17. Be consistent

Be on time when you make plans with someone. Do not text them twenty minutes before and say you’ll be twenty minutes late, or worse, cancel at the last minute. Small things like being on time build trust in any relationship.

18. Be aware of cultural differences

As individuals often move for career and family obligations, it is important to understand the culture of friendships within your community. If not properly understood, cultural differences can create a barrier to friendships.

19. Compliment others

“Spontaneous trait transference” happens when people tend to associate the adjectives you use to describe other people with your personality. So, if you describe someone else with positive adjectives, people will associate you with those qualities.

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