Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Let’s face it, who doesn’t want to be missed by their man?
But, how to make a guy miss you badly? On one hand, this seems like a manipulative question. On the other hand, not so much. Why? Because if you truly want a man to miss you, it probably means that you want him to be invested in you. And that’s perfectly normal.
When it comes to romantic love, missing each other is one key to a long-lasting relationship. The longing and passion that you feel inside make you want for more.
Naturally, we like to spend our time with people who we love and who make us happy. The more we do these things, the more we are addicted to them being at our side. So, when we are apart our body craves that feeling.
In order to make a man miss you, there are certain rules you need to follow. The goal is to be at the forefront of his mind. In doing so, you will quickly notice how the feeling of missing someone can reinforce love and develop the attraction.
So let’s get into it.
Simple Ways to Make a Guy Miss You
1. Don’t be available 24/7.
This one goes without saying, yet it’s amazing how many people slip up on it.
If you’re spending all of your time apart sitting by the phone and waiting for a message or call, then you aren’t even giving this guy a chance to miss you.
We get it, you love talking to him and want him to know that. But, now’s your chance to make him miss you. Turn your phone on silent, or even place it out of sight. It depends how tempted you might be to respond straight away. Make him wonder every now and then about what you’re up to and why you aren’t responding. It’s healthy for the relationship.
Plus, it always helps to put a bit of time between receiving a message and writing your response so you can craft the best reply possible. It’s no secret that we make mistakes and say things we don’t mean when we let our emotions get involved and act hastily.
2. Play the waiting game.
According to Dating Metrics, 15% of men get in touch first on the same night and 49% of men get in touch the night after. This is because of the waiting game. They don’t want to show that they are missing you already and hence wait for a day or two to get in touch.
This same trick can be applied by women. Make them wait for you to respond. Make them miss you to call you back. The rule is to make him wait twice as long as he took to respond to your text or call. It will make him want you to respond to his texts and messages and he will start to miss you and will call you.
That’s exactly what you want. Right? So play the waiting game to make a guy miss you. Sometimes playing hard to get pays off.
3. Avoid text bombing.
Text bombing is where you send text after text without waiting for the other person to respond. If your texting style is to send new texts in paragraphs, that’s ok, but remember, if you want him to miss you, you should limit the amount of contact you make.
Once again this comes back down to confidence. If you’re confident and secure in yourself, you will not feel the need to text all the time.
If you’re missing your man and want to connect, schedule a time to talk uninterrupted. Be understanding that he’ll be busy, he’ll have people to see and things to do.
And more importantly, you do too right? Keep yourself busy and the time will fly by fast.
4. Be the first to end the conversation.
After making him wait, he will eventually contact you if he really likes you. Always be the one to hang up the phone and let him be the one to send that last text.
The key is to keep him wanting more of you. Because you ended the conversation, it will make him contact you first because he feels the need to continue your conversation.
5. Limit social media posts.
If you’re someone who is constantly updating social media with your activities, try limiting how much you post. Social media posts are an easy way for people to stay connected and never feel like they’re missing you. When you post less, your guy will start to miss learning about what’s going on in your life.
Limit communication with your guy on social media as well. If you use social media to talk to him when you aren’t together, stop this form of communication for a while. He’ll be wanting to hear from you and will hopefully reach out when he starts missing you.
6. Don’t say ‘yes’ to him every time.
It sounds counter-intuitive to say no to a guy when you really would love to spend time with him, but it’s actually a good idea. Men may lose interest if you’re always available to them, especially early in the relationship.
If you want to be the only girl he thinks about all day long, being a bit distant and inaccessible can make you even more attractive in a man’s eyes. Doing this instantly makes you an intriguing challenge, which means he’ll either have to pursue you in order to get into a relationship with you or risk losing you to another relationship.
7. Leave him craving for more.
It’s like our favorite food. When we get a taste of something delicious, we want to taste it again. But here is the catch, if you always get that taste even how delicious it is, you will lose interest. Men want what they can’t have. So give him a taste but do not give it all. Make it challenging for him. In this way, he will appreciate you more.
8. Don’t give away everything.
You both might be getting really comfortable with each other and you think that this is it. This is the moment when you can finally open up to him. Stop right there. Don’t share your life story in just two dates. Men like surprises.
That is what keeps them interested. Giving everything right away will leave no room for further conversations. There are things you can talk about with your boyfriend to know him better but there are things you can hold on to about yourself if you want.
Keep making him want to figure you out. You’ll be the one playing on his mind.
9. Leave him something of yours.
A good way to keep his mind on you and missing you is to give him a memorabilia. You can put together a little package to give him before he goes or send it to him.
This gift package may include one or more of these things. Keep it simple stupid.
- A nice photo of you (for the computer or smartphone) so he can save it as his background.
- A little love note hidden amongst his things.
- An item of your clothing splayed with a hint of your favourite perfume.
- Something you’ve made (a painting, drawing, any arts n craft thing you’ve made, a collection of love songs etc).
- An item that is dear to you.
10. Look your best when he sees you.
There’s nothing that’s going to make a guy miss you more than looking hot to trot when he does spend time with you. Even if you aren’t with him and know he’s going to see you like when you’re out at a party, be sure to go all out on looking amazing. Leave him drooling if you can.
When guys are visually stimulated that’s interconnected with emotion. And we all know emotion and logic don’t mix. Play with his emotions and you’re going to make him really miss you. Whether he gets the prize or not is completely up to you.
11. Create space between you and him.
A guy can’t miss you if you’re always right there for him. A great way to get him to miss you is to create space between the two of you.
If you spend every minute of the weekend with him, start carving out time to spend away from him. Spend a Friday night at home alone or with friends instead of hanging out with your man. At first he will probably like the time alone, but if you begin to do this regularly, he’ll start missing you in his arms.
12. Make an effort with the little things.
After all, it’s these little things that count. Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or still trying to get to know the guy, it’s time to up your game.
Pay attention to the little details:
- How does he like his coffee?
- What does he like for breakfast?
- What are his interests?
- What’s his favourite drink?
- What’s his favourite food?
Use this information to surprise him from time to time. For example, have a drink waiting for him when you get to the bar. Make him a coffee in the morning before he gets up. Organise a day together doing something he loves.
Be sure, he’ll notice. And it’s these little things that’ll make him miss you when you’re not around.
13. Compliment him a lot.
Men love compliments. It appeals to their sensitive egos. It is in every man’s deepest desire to be with a woman who admires him greatly. Complimenting him is how you show you admire him.
Just make sure you’re genuine. Tell him if he looks sexy in jeans. If he can make you laugh like no one else, let him know. If he can cook mean pancakes, gush about it and even post his creation all over social media.
Where else would he get this much praise and attention? Only with you!
14. Tell him the magic words: “Go out & have fun”.
This one may seem counterintuitive but it’s such a powerful psychological tactic to get a man to miss you with every ounce of his being. Most women are scared their man will forget about them or be flirted with by other woman.
To pull this off you must be confident (that’s why you must do the steps above). You must inherently know: you’re a catch, your man is lucky to have you and it will be hard for him to find another woman like you.
Ironically enough when a man knows he can have his freedom while dating you, he’ll fall in love with you more and not even want his freedom anymore.
15. If you can cook, cook his favorite meals.
Most men are quite traditional when it comes to relationships. They prefer a woman who can cook. Now if you can’t, that’s ok too. A man who loves you will not care if you can’t cook. He just needs to know you care about him.
Food is one way a woman can show she cares for him. By the way, it’s also not difficult to learn but it’s important you “want” to learn and you “enjoy” cooking. If it’s just not your thing, there’s nothing wrong with that. Focus on your strengths instead.
When he becomes accustomed to eating your dishes, all you would need to do is send a photo of you cooking his favorite meal or just tell him what you’re cooking, and he’ll instantly miss you and wish he were with you.
16. Show him that he’s not the only one in line.
Have “accidental” encounters with him when you are with your male friend. Try to make him jealous by showing how close you are with this male friend.
Tell him you have a guy best friend and see how he reacts. Men want what they can’t have and when he will realize that he’s not the only one in line, he will start missing you like crazy and pay more attention to you.
17. Be happy.
This one can be a little tricky to understand, but give us a chance here…
If you’re happy and loving life, he’s going to want to be part of that – and he’ll miss you when you’re not around. Let’s face it, no one misses the miserable, clingy person who adds nothing to the conversation. Everyone misses the vibrant, confident person who loves life and lives it to the full.
So, instead of sitting around and wondering when he’s next going to message you, get out there and have some fun. Go out with the girlfriends, organize a shopping day, grab a good book – whatever makes you happy.
If you’re happy, it will show. Do what makes you happy, have a laugh, and watch the effect it has!
18. Don’t try so hard.
If we’ve learned anything about having successful relationships, it’s that you can’t try so hard. When you try hard, you repel things, especially people. Your relationship shouldn’t be about trying hard. It should be about loving hard.
When you have to try to get him to miss you, the opposite will happen. Things go wrong, it comes out all wrong: it turns him off.
Just be yourself, do your own thing, give him the space he needs, and be amazing when he’s around. He’ll miss you when you are just being you.
19. Show him you’re adventures.
Men’s Health reports if you want a guy to miss you, you need to slip into adventure because that’s where men shine. Stop talking about his feelings and take action in life.
Guys want to rule the jungle. They want to climb higher and ride further. With you right beside him cheering him on. Make him feel like the king of the world. That’s your golden ticket to make him miss you.
20. Be yourself.
Men love women, who are independent, fun-loving, and more importantly, who own themselves. Loving yourself for who you are will make him love you the same way.
Faking your personality to attract him towards you is short-lived and will only drive him away from you later on or create a fake relationship as well. If you want your man to actually miss you, make him miss parts of you that are real.