12. And don’t ask for ‘time’ either.
Another tactic utilized by individuals who lack the guts to just go for it. It’s rude to tell your lover you’re not sure about the relationship and then request some time to reconsider.
When they may be beginning the process of moving on, they’re more likely to spend that time dwelling on it and feeling sad in general.
13. Don’t try to make the other person feel better.
After the relationship has ended, you cannot remain a member of your ex’s network of friends.
When a relationship ends, you are no longer responsible for the other person’s feelings. Furthermore, you are no longer required to support them in coping, and giving them comfort is likely to make their situation worse.
Additionally, it could backfire by making them more resentful of you for being so kind (while dumping them).
14. Prepare to listen.
Despite the fact that you will be the one initiating the discussion, you should be ready to listen as well. What you hear might not be to your taste. Your spouse may respond in a variety of ways, but they all have the need to be heard, if not to have the last say.
Think about your partner’s needs at that time, be ready to meet them, and take appropriate action.
Allow the other person to speak without interrupting them.
Take your partner’s side. As honestly as you can, respond to any questions.
15. Agree on contact rules and boundaries.
You might wish to end this connection, move on, and sever all ties with them. Your decision, although they might not concur. Let them know as diplomatically as you can if you don’t think it’s healthy for them to stay in touch.
When you initially split up, staying out of one other’s lives is frequently the best course of action to give each party time to digest the breakup and begin moving on.
If you’re alright with them contacting you, you should be explicit about your boundaries. You might decide on a deadline by which all contact would end. After a particular hour at night, ignore all text messages. You can suggest that you’ll stop answering if they try to persuade you to change your views.
