No wonder age gaps between couples exist! It is an exciting time for experimenting in dating. But such relationships are usually seen as being weird or unnatural, and society judges the people in those relationships.
What is the truth about age difference in relationships? How much is too much? Does it really matter, and how could it affect you?
According to statistics, the average age difference between partners has generally been around three years. But sometimes love can be age-blind. Husbands and wives usually have more in common and share similar belief systems when their age difference is just several years, but whenever a significant age gap exists, couples are more likely to have different life goals and perspectives, which may prove the two people incompatible long term.
There exist an old dating rule of determining a socially-acceptable age difference in partners goes something like this: half your age plus seven (40 = 20 +7 = 27) to define the minimum age of a partner and your age minus seven times two (40 = 33 * 2 = 60) to define the maximum age of a partner.
Somewhat in contradiction, let us say that nothing is impossible, because relationships do not work by rules. They are intrinsically a meeting of emotions, and we all know that emotions can take you anywhere.
LOVE IS LOVE
Even when that love includes a 20-year age gap.
That’s because relationships are dependent on the feelings two people have toward one another, not how many years they’ve been alive.
And, every relationship is different. Every person is different. Some people are more mature than others within their age group. There is no reason why those people should not be able to date older people and have that mature relationship that they want.
The success of a relationship depends on the partners’ shared values, beliefs, goals and communication. These factors have little to do with age.
Sure, people can have differences because of their age. But people have lots of other differences too, like religion, political views and wealth. Those things shouldn’t keep people apart, so age shouldn’t either.
Some people say age gaps don’t work because the two people can’t understand each other, especially when they are from different generations and grew up in different times. But everyone grows up differently no matter what their age is. Everybody lives through different experiences that make them who they are. Those differences should be embraced, not discouraged.
And yes, it is true that statistics prove that the bigger the age gap, the bigger the chance of a couple splitting up. But a lot of that is because of disapproval from society. Whether we like to admit it or not, people care about what their friends, family and general society think of them.
When people feel like their loved ones and everyone around them disapproves of their relationship, of course it is likely that the relationship will end.
But statistics also show that couples who make it past the two-year mark, no matter what the age gap, are approximately 43% less likely to split up.
Some people may feel that age gap relationships are too difficult or they face harder challenges, but all relationships have problems.
AGE IS IRRELEVANT
If two people are really right for each other, they will be able to get past their issues no matter how big. A big age gap between you and your partner does not mean it’s the end of your relationship; it just means you have to work hard and compromise just like you would in any other relationship.
All relationships are hard, no matter what. The divorce rate is high, regardless of an age gap.
Ultimately, a relationship works because the people in it mesh well together and have a great connection. As long as people have that love for one another, age is irrelevant.
At the end of the day, the only people that matter in your relationship are you and your partner. Your business is your own. How you both choose to conquer these obstacles will determine the outcome of your relationship. Keep your love tank full! When you truly connect with someone, nothing should stand in the way of nurturing that — all the rules that once defined dating are out the window.