When our expectations are not realized, the majority of us become dissatisfied. We expected someone to be or do something, but when they didn’t, we were understandably dissatisfied.
But if you want to succeed, it’s crucial to not ask anyone to do anything that you aren’t prepared to do for yourself.
“My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.”
Stephen Hawking
STOP EXPECTING THESE 12 THINGS FROM OTHERS
1. Don’t Expect Everyone Else to Understand You
Nobody else has experienced your childhood, worn your shoes, or lived your life. Your life experiences and how you currently perceive the world are very different from everyone else’s.
Therefore, don’t count on others to “understand” who you are at your core. Some people will be able to connect, while others won’t know what you’re talking about.
If you were clear, you fulfilled your responsibility. There are those who will value and relate to what you have shared. It’s acceptable if some people are not where you are. Recognize what you were able to do and continue.
2. Stop Expecting Fulfillment of Your Template
It’s a never-ending search to find someone else to make your life complete. Give up hoping to meet the one person who can fulfill all of your requirements.
The meaning of “fulfillment” according to one authoritative dictionary is “satisfaction or contentment as a result of completely developing one’s talents or character.”
I’m done now. You are prepared to interact with people in a positive and mutually beneficial manner after you are content with your own life. Before people can get along with you, you must first make peace with yourself.
3. Don’t Expect People to Help You Every Time
You may depend on excellent friends and family to assist you when you need them, but don’t expect them to always take the burden off your shoulders. Try to see things from their perspective because perhaps they are now battling internal issues that prevent them from bearing the weight of both your troubles and theirs.
They wish to assist, but are now unable to. They may not really care, but you occasionally have to summon your inner warrior and engage in your own conflicts.
4. Don’t Expect Others to Apologize
Have you ever been upset with someone inwardly just to find out they were unaware they insulted or wounded you? Even if someone does want to injure you, they might not always want to apologize.
We may waste so much time and energy waiting for excuses we might never receive. Release it. The ability to move on is granted when one does not wait for an apology.
“We should learn to accept apologies we have never received.”
Jay Shetty
