Life is a continuous learning experience. Throughout our lives we keep rising and falling, picking up important lessons along the way. Some of these lessons come from experience, yet there are others that we learn watching others or reading in books for example.
But there are many life lessons that we simply cannot learn until we face certain situations in our life. Most people would say that there are some lessons that come too late, catching us off-guard and unprepared.
The hardest part about the process, however, is understanding that sometimes opportunities don’t last forever. You finally “get it” when it’s too late to act. If the possibility allows it, it’s best to learn these things sooner rather than later.
What are the lessons people often learn too late in life?
1. Everything is temporary
Your good times are temporary and your bad times are temporary. So when you’re up, enjoy it, bask in it, and be grateful for it. And when you’re down, know you will get through it. Know that it’s not the end, and that it’s just a rough patch. Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs, and surprises.
We forget that it’s about the journey not the destination.
There is a lesson in everything. It’s hard for a lot of people especially young people – to appreciate life. Recognizing the full worth of your hardships and your blunders is key to appreciating the journey. It’s just as important to stay humble and be grateful for the joys life brings you.
Everything is temporary, so make the most out of all of it.
2. Walk your own path
People like to judge other people. This peer pressure can make you stray from the path you started to carve for your future.
Don’t mind other people’s aspirations, don’t ever let someone else’s goals and dreams influence your vision of life. It’s your path and you decide where it takes you and how long it takes you to see it through.
3. Life isn’t fair
Yeah, you were expecting something else. Sorry to disappoint you with the truth.
The promotion will probably go to someone who’s been smooth talking the boss, despite the fact that you’re more qualified and work harder. She might like the douchebag more, despite you thinking that you’d be the perfect fit for her.
We do not live in a perfect world and even if you did, it wouldn’t care much for you as an individual. The world doesn’t owe you anything. Just because you think you deserve something, doesn’t mean you’re going to get it.
4. Never fail to try more
Even when we’re feeling most prepared there is a chance we fail in accomplishing our goal. An athlete could lead the entire race only to fall just in front of the finish line and lose. This doesn’t mean the athlete should stop competing; on the contrary, he would work even harder for the next competition. The results will come, eventually.
5. Things don’t matter that much
When you’re young you want things because you see other people having things and you think your life would be better if you had them as well. Things are just things, they don’t make you who you are. Possessions are raw materials moved from one place to another.
Do you think 10 years from now you’ll care that right now you have the latest iPhone? We want things because we are being sold on wanting them. Look around you right now, no really, pause the video and look around. How many things you have around you, which you don’t really need.
You need tools, not things and nobody needs more than a couple essential tools to get the job done.
6. Dream big and take action
It costs nothing to dream big. Most people make choices about what they think they can do, what others think they can do and what the economy tells them they can do.
But regardless of what others may say or what your current circumstances may dictate, what would you love? Allow yourself to dream big. Then think about some simple action steps you can take that help welcome that dream right into the life you’re living now!
7. Even the longest night was followed by a morning
Some things will take longer than 12 hours to pass. Maybe a couple of months or even years, but one thing’s for certain:
No matter how hard it is right now, how dark everything seems, there will come a day when you will feel better.
Even bad times are temporary. This particular mindset will help you push through some of the most difficult bits life will throw at you. Don’t take this advice lightly!
8. Take care of your health early
When we’re young we can push our body to its limits day after day. It seems as nothing can touch us and we are invincible. However, as we grow older all the parties, drinking, smoking, and eating fast food take a toll on our health. Start developing healthy habits while you’re still young and healthy. Take regular checkups with your doctor and dentist in order to prevent future problems.
9. Live here and now
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”
More often than not, we tend to worry about what’s to come, or dwell on something that’s already happened. While it’s crucial to care and consider your future, be careful not to let it hinder your present. Moments turn into memories. Enjoy the moment while you have it.
It usually takes a lifetime of piled up worries for a person to realize: Worrying isn’t productive.
Living in the past is equally unproductive. There are definitely benefits in being able to reflect on yourself and on your past. Paying attention to what you’ve been through and how that makes you feel matters. It takes a lot of emotional energy to grieve, process, and overcome.
The balance of being able to take time to reflect, and to prioritize your future while spending the majority of your day in the present, is beyond valuable, it’s life changing.
10. Embrace who you are
It may not be easy to feel fully confident with who you are and stand up for your authentic needs, desires, and happiness (especially when you’re young). It is much harder, however, to hide and pretend to be someone you’re not. By being authentic and caring for yourself, you will draw like-minded people and live the life you were destined for.
11. Good things don’t come easy
If you want to have a good life with a successful career, emotional satisfaction, and trustworthy friends you have to work hard. Luck can take you only so far and the rest is entirely up to you, the amount of effort you put in every day, and the ability to learn from your mistakes.
Don’t think for a moment that someone else is going to fight your battles with the same vigor and devotion as you would.
12. For every action, there’s an equal opposite reaction
Before you say something or act in a certain way, think about the consequences. A person could be unprepared to hear some truth or won’t respond well to our gesture, no matter how good our intentions are. Treat each word with caution.