7. It becomes an addiction.
You could start with a glance at his history then a spy into his bank account and social media likes and comments. You could go on and on and at the end of the day you would realize how much time you had wasted searching through unnecessary stuffs.
Even when your spouse is clean you could still get addicted to checking his stuff and could even get up at the middle of the night to get your spying dose.
8. It’s not good for your self-esteem.
Nobody likes the person that they become when they are consumed with waiting for their partner to go to the bathroom so they can pounce on their phone and quickly scroll through texts.
Most people want to feel like they are honest people with integrity and self-respect. Nothing is a bigger hit to your self-esteem than snooping around, feeling like you’re a criminal, trying to get information that you know isn’t rightfully yours.
It’s much better to face your fears and suspicions openly. You’ll feel better about yourself if you ask, and don’t snoop.
9. This can undermine your reputation.
It sets a bad example for your kids and extended family. When snooping comes out, especially if your spouse is innocent, it makes you look bad to everyone.
10. It may be illegal.
Is it legal to spy on your spouse? The short answer is: often, no.
The way you gather any information makes a big difference. If you’re not careful, using technology to spy on your spouse may put you in more legal trouble than it’s worth. You could face stalking or invasion of privacy charges.
For some states, it’s perfectly legal to record phone calls or in person conversations between yourself and someone else because one person has agreed to the recording. Other states require both parties be aware that the phone call/conversation is being recorded.
This means that you cannot set up a recorder in your spouses’ car and record conversations that he/she has with other people. There are cases where people have made this mistake and paid dearly with a jail sentence.